Hanky Code

Within the taboo world of sex, there are many secret and not so secret desires kept in the dark, along with  ignorance and fear. For centuries, sex has been considered amoral or unspeakable. Incredibly so, many people still feel this way about it, but I don't have to tell you; you probably know someone, or two, or ten, that are repressed when it comes to their sexuality. Don't get me wrong, I don't mean modest people that don't unleash their sex life onto every passing wind; I'm talking about those people who think sex is dirty, promiscuity makes you a bad person, and orgasms are the Devil's tickles.

Oh, what up, Satan?

Unfortunately, because people are still shamed for what they are turned on by, many have devised different codes and signals for finding people of similar mind to get freaky with. This includes a "hanky code". Allegedly, hanky wearers are most commonly seen at gay leather bars; I haven't had the luck to see these in the wild yet. However, I found a pamphlet about it at work, so I thought I'd share it with you. Worse case scenario, these codes are no longer in use, best case scenario, you now speak hanky. It's like being part of a secret society like the Illuminati or Freemasons, except there's a lot more sex.

"You can stick your Old Glory in my freedom hole anytime"

Without further ado, I'll step down from my soapbox, and here are some hanky codes; who uses them and where they wear it:

Before we start the list, the location of the hanky changes its meaning. If worn in the back pocket, it might mean the wearer is looking for some action. If worn in the front pocket, it might mean they have already found a partner for this activity. Also, I've added links to certain terms that you may not be familiar with. To save time, a top is someone who gives,  and a bottom is someone who receives. Alright, as you were.

Ethnicity
Color: Beige lace
Worn on Left Pocket: Likes white bottoms
Worn on Right Pocket: Likes white tops

Color: Black and White stripes
Left: Likes black bottoms
Right: Likes black tops

Color: Brown and White stripes
Left: Likes Hispanic bottoms
Right: Likes Hispanic tops

Color: Pink and White stripes 
Left: Likes Native American/Indian bottoms
Right: Likes Native American/Indian tops

Color: Yellow and White stripes
Left: Likes Oriental bottoms
Right: Likes Oriental tops

BDSM

Color: Black and White checkered
Left: Soft SM top
Right: Soft SM bottom

Color: Black
Left: Hard SM top
Right: Hard SM bottom

Color: Teal
Left: Genital torturer
Right: Genital torturee

Color: Charcoal
Left: Latex/Rubber top
Right: Latex/Rubber bottom

Color: Fuscia
Left: Spanker
Right: Spankee

Color: Light Green
Left: Verbal abuser
Right: Verbal abuse bottom

Color: Grey
Left: Bondage top
Right: Bondage bottom

Color: Orange and Black stripes
Left: Rapist
Right: Rape victim

Color: Pale Yellow
Left: Spitter
Right: Spittoon

Color: Turquoise
Left: Catheterizer
Right: Catheterizee

Color: Dark Pink
Left: Tit torturer
Right: Tit torturee

Color: Red
Left: Fister
Right: Fistee

Color: Dark Red
Left: Double fister
Right: Double fistee

Color: Saran Wrap
Left: Mummifier
Right: Mummy

Color: Silver
Left: Electrician
Right: Shock absorber

Color: Red and White checkered
Left: Brander/Cutter
Right: Brandee/Cuttee

Roleplay
Color: Green lace
Left: Mother
Right: Daughter

Color: Hunter Green
Left: Daddy
Right: Son

Color: Peach
Left: Bear
Right: Cub

Color: Rust
Left: Cowboy/Cowgirl
Right: Horse

Color: Black and Red stripes
Left: Vampire
Right: Victim

Color: White lace
Left: Victorian scenes, top
Right: Victorian scenes, bottom

Group Sex/Swingers
Color: Gold
Left: Two looking for one
Right: One looking for two

Color: Red lace
Left: Group sex
Right: Group sex bottom

Color: Toothbrush
Left: My lover's out; my place ok
Right: Your place only

Color: Gold lace
Left: Involved but available top
Right: Involved but available bottom

Color: Dolly
Left: Tearoom top
Right: Tearoom bottom

Preference
Color: Chamois
Left: Rides a motorcycle
Right: Biker groupie

Color: Gold lamé
Left: Likes bodybuilder bottoms
Right: Likes bodybuilder tops

Color: Grey flannel
Left: Owns a suit
Right: Likes men in suits

Color: Lavender
Left: Likes drag queens
Right: Drag queen

Color: Leopard print
Left: Has tattoos
Right: Likes tattoos

Color: Mosquito netting
Left: Outdoor sex top
Right: Outdoor sex bottom

Color: Olive/Camouflage
Left: Military/Uniform top
Right: Military/Uniform bottom

Color: Paisley
Left: Wears boxer shorts
Right: Likes boxer shorts

Color: Rebel flag
Left: Fights to be top
Right: Fights to be bottom

Color: Studded leather
Left: Sash queen (titleholder)
Right: Looking for a sashqueen

Color: Tan
Left: Smokes cigars
Right: Likes cigar smokers

Color: Teddy bear
Left: Cuddler
Right: Cuddlee

Color: White
Left: Likes novices
Right: Novice

Color: Mustard
Left: Has 8" or more
Right: Wants 8" or more

Color: Brown lace
Left: Uncircumcised
Right: Likes uncircumcised

Fetish

Color: Apricot
Left: Two Tons O'Fun
Right: Chubby chaser

Color: Blue and White checkered
Left: Voyeur
Right: Exhibitionist

Color: Brown
Left: Scat top
Right: Scat bottom

Color: Coral
Left: Foot fetish top
Right: Shrimper

Color: Kleenex
Left: Stinks
Right: Sniffs

Color: Lime Green
Left: Dines off body
Right: Dinner plate

Color: Magenta
Left: Pit lickee
Right: Pit licker

Color: Maroon
Left: Likes menstruating women
Right: Menstruating woman

Color: Mauve
Left: Likes navel worship
Right: Navel worshipper

Color: Red and White stripes
Left: Shaver
Right: Shavee

Color: Rosary
Left: Ritual Scenes top
Right: Ritual Scenes bottom

Color: Yellow
Left: Water sports top
Right: Water sports bottom

Kind of Sex

Color: Beige
Left: Rimmer
Right: Rimmee

Color: Dark Blue
Left: Butt fucker
Right: Butt fuckee

Color: Light Blue
Left: Wants oral sex
Right: Expert at oral sex

Color: Orange
Left: Anything goes, top
Right: Anything goes, bottom

Color: Robin's egg Blue
Left: Sixty-niner top
Right: Sixty-niner bottom

BONUS

Color: Ziploc bag
Left: Has drugs

Right: Wants drugs

Alright, you're ready to navigate through the sex underworld. Maybe next time you'll put a little more thought into what color handkerchiefs you buy.

Side note: If any of you can verify the validity of the "Hanky code", please share!

Toy Tuesday: Rabbit Vibrators

Oh hello, out there! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend, and not so rough start to your Monday. Can you guys believe it's going to be May already? As April comes to a close, I thought I would dedicate this Toy Tuesday to a certain cuddly festive animal. A certain creature known for bringing joy to small children, and one who continues to do so as we grow up, in a very different way.

Today's Toy: Rabbit Vibrators

Appearing in the 1990s, this toy's creation is credited to California Exotic Toys, and exploded in popularity after being featured on Sex and the City. A Godsent to some, Rabbits are popular due to their ability to stimulate both internally and externally. Sorry, guys, this toy is just for the ladies, but it can still be enjoyed by both.

Silly Rabbit, you are for girls!

• Standard realistic: This is the basic, original design. The S.R. looks like a basic dildo with a battery pack at the bottom and a protruding clitoral stimulator, normally shaped like a rabbit (hence the name). Most models look like the standard design, with a few variations for different sensations.

• Rotary beaded: Similar to the S.R., with the inclusion of rotating beads in the shaft. This has become a pretty popular model; I've sold more of these than any other Rabbit style.

• Non-realistic: For those a little nervous about realistic looking vibrators, this variation is the toy for you. They perform the exact same function as it's mushroom tipped comrade, but are much more demure and aesthetically pleasing. If you are willing to spend a little more money on your toys (which should always be the case if you can), then Lelo is the brand for you.

• G-Spot: I briefly mentioned these models in my previous post on G-spot Vibrators. Again, it's design is specifically made to hit a woman's cum trigger more effectively. You can find realisitc or non realistic versions with all the bells and whistles it's straight counterparts have, the only difference is it's curved tip.

• Triple Teaser: Ever the over-achievers, triple teasers are proof of the sex industry's insatiable desire to improve upon an already great design. This model is pretty self explanatory; it stimulates clitorally, vaginally, and anally simultaneously.

The do's and don't's of Rabbit use aren't really applicable here. There isn't necessarily a right or wrong way to use the toy; it's pretty easy to figure out. My main piece of advice is to be relaxed when you use it and switch hands if you get tired (those things get heavy!) Also, you can either use it on yourself, a female partner, or have your partner use it on you. Other than that, just lay back and enjoy!

If you follow my blog, you may know how to care for your toys by now; warm water and antibacterial soap. If you wanted a more detailed explanation by material and toy type, here's a, hopefully, helpful post. Rabbits, similar to other vibrators/dildos, come in an array of different materials including silicone, jelly, rubber, latex, and glass, so there are plenty of ways to care and store all of them.

If you're already a fan of these toys or a complete novice, hopefully this helps you find the right type for you. Now hop along and find a bunny of your own.

P.S. Here's a bunny for the fellas so they don't feel left out. Don't say I don't think of you guys.

(Click here to see more of this artist's work)

Difficulty to use:

I wouldn't say it's difficult, as it is tiring after a while. If you've had sex before, you pretty much know what to do with it. If you haven't, it's not that difficult to figure out; I believe in you. I suggest playing with the features before you actually use it though,  that way you know what settings and speeds you like beforehand. It can save you some awkward manoeuvring during the deed.

Versatility:

Realistic. Aesthetic. Curved. Straight. Ridged. Nubbed. Single Speed. Multispeed. Pulsating. Beaded. Smooth. Wireless. Remote controlled. Speed knob. Silicone. Jelly. Glass..

You get the idea. With dozens of varying features, speeds, and pulse settings, it's hard not to find a rabbit that fits your needs. Although the basic design is the same, for the most part, there is a toy out there for you.

My Rating:

This rating and review is based upon Rabbits in general, as well as Pipedream's Thumper vibe from their WOW! Line.

Another first for me! This is my first experience with a rabbit, and I feel a little mixed about it. I don't normally use anything internally, not to mention the Thumper is pretty big, so at first it felt a little strange. I need a lot of clitoral stimulation, so I wasn't a huge fan of the rabbit ear design. I'd prefer something with a flatter tongue that could hit my spot more directly.

That being said, I love how smooth the silicone felt, and clean up was so easy. The Thumper had plenty of pulsating settings for the clit stimulator, including three different speeds, and the shaft had three pumping speeds, which I liked. I would probably like to try a rotating bead model next, but all in all, I liked it and the product is very well made. I would definitely recommend any models from their WOW! line. Four lips for the Thumper, 3.5 for rabbits in general.

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Fetish Friday: Pogonophilia

Hi guys! April is great, isn't it? Spring is in full swing, the weather's nice, BBQs and pool parties are rampant, and tanning season has begun. What could be better? Oh wait, it's halfway to magical Movember. In honor of my favorite month, let's head onto today's fetish, shall we?

Today's Fetish: Pogonophilia

Pogonophiles are admirers of beards. Sexy, sexy beards. Unlike trichophilia (a hair fetish that mainly focuses on head hair, but includes pubic, axillary, and chest), pogonophilia exclusively centers around facial hair.

Although widely popular, it is not officially classified as a sexual paraphilia, yet. However, it has inspired numerous blogs, Reddit threads, Pinterest boards, Tumblr pages and articles.

Just to show how popular this has become, here are some beard adoring pages:

• Bitches Love Beards (Tumblr)
• Love for Lumberjacks (Tumblr)
• For the East Coast beard aficionados: Beards of Brooklyn (Tumblr)
• For my West Coast lovers Beards of Seattle (Tumblr)
• Queen of Beards (Twitter)
• Beard Porn (Instagram)
• And my favorite: God Send Models (Instagram)

Once considered a fetish solely reserved for gay men, pogonophilia has gotten so mainstream that many male models including Ricki Hall, Levi Stocke, and Patrik Jonasson have made careers thanks to their glorious thigh ticklers.

Until now, I've only based Fetish Friday on widely researched paraphilias but hey, it's my blog and I'll worship beards if I want to. Now, excuse me while I go get my freak on.

Here's some more beard porn, for your and my enjoyment:

You're welcome

Toy Tuesday: Anal Toys

Don't worry, chickies, I haven't forgotten about you; my computer broke down so it's been difficult to get my posts out. However, I did get some new goodies from the awesome people at Pipedream, so here I am with a new Toy Tuesday. 

Today's Toy: Anal toys

I've put off these toys for a while because I was a little hesitant to try them out for myself, and I know I'm not the only one. Anal is normally preconceived as a topic reserved for homosexual men and porn stars, but it's my goal to remove that taboo, or at least help.

Contrary to popular belief, anal toys are great for men and women, and you don't have to be gay to enjoy them. Unfortunately, there are negative connotations about men enjoying anal stimulation, but this has nothing to do with sexual preference. Because many men are afraid to discover their P-spot, they're missing out on a lot of fun. And ladies, don't think that men have all the fun; because this is normally such an "off limits" area, you might be surprised at how different and good it feels. There are plenty of nerve endings there, so it is a very erogenous zone for both sexes.

• Plugs: Similar to a dildo, basic plugs are usually thinner at the tip and flared out at the bottom. They have an additional base to prevent the toy from going too far into the body. Beginner plugs may begin at 2-3 inches long, and can be as large as 8-10 inches. You can choose from vibrating or non vibrating models, and some come in varied shapes, although the flared look is a common design element.

• Beads: These sexual aids consist of a string of beads that may or may not include a ring at the end for easy extraction. Some toys vary in girth, either having consistently sized beads or going from smallest to largest. They can also vary in length, from an average of 3-5 to 8-10 beads per strand. Beginners are recommended to use an all soft maleable jelly product. Anal beads can remain in the body for a feeling of fullness during sex, however, many people use them to increase orgasms by pulling them out slowly during climax.

• Prostate massager: Sorry girls, this product is specially aimed for the men. It's curved design resembles a G-spot vibrators to better reach a man's prostate and perinium easily. Just like plugs, you can choose from  vibrating or non vibrating.

Now, before you get all gun ho and shove something up your third hole, here are some basic Do's and Don't's of anal:

• Do ease yourself into it. Instead of rushing in, ready the area first by inserting one finger first, then gradually adding more. Patience is a virtue with this one.
• Don't go in dry. Since your anus doesn't produce any natural lubrication always have some handy. Every time you enter, make sure whatever you're using is nice and wet. Relive your slip n' slide days, expect now, the toy is you and your ass is the kiddie pool at the end.
• Do use a toy with a flared base. If you've ever had the misfortune of using a suppository, then you know your rectum can act as a vacuum. The flared base prevents the toy from going any deeper than it should. You don't want to be one of those people rushed to the ER with random objects stuck up there. (The peanut butter jar? Knock it off. No dog is going to dig that deep)
• Don't transfer/share toys in the same session. Ladies, when using anal toys, don't go from anus to vagina. There are certain bacterias that your vagina is not used to fighting, so avoid an infection and stick to one hole. Sharing is not caring in this case.
• Do experiment. Try different toys to get different sensations. Beads? Plugs? Vibrating? Glass or metal? Sure! Why not? Just please avoid the hamsters, they've been through enough.
• Don't be afraid to reach your limit. If you feel overwhelmed by the toy at some point, make sure to tell your partner you've had enough.
• Do be relaxed. Trying anything new tends to make some people nervous, but the more you tense up your body, the harder or more painful the experience will be. If this is your first time trying any anal play, make sure you are as relaxed as possible. Try laying on your back and propping your lower back with a pillow. Don't do doggy style! It looks great on film, but it's a bad idea for first time users. Trust me, I had to learn the hard way, and it put me off for years. If you're still nervous, try taking a warm bath before, to relax your muscles.
• Don't use numbing creams/sprays/etc. Although these are readily sold at sex stores everywhere, I never recommend them to my customers. If a toy is too intense or big, you want to be aware of what your body's telling you. If you're numb, you won't know if the area is being stretched too far or even torn.
• Do have fun! That's the point right?

Anal toys are the same as other products when it comes to care. All toys can be cleaned with lukewarm water and antibacterial soap. To sanitize, glass and silicone can be placed in boiling water for 2 minutes,  while metal and plastic toys can be wiped down with rubbing alcohol. If you're using jelly products, use a condom over it for easier maintainance. Store somewhere cool and free of humidity, and remember to take the batteries out of any vibrating plugs.

For all of you who only see this area as an "exit only", my former self included, throw all your inhibitions to the wind and say, "fuck it". You might just like what you find, and if not, at least you gave it a shot. A pain in the ass only lasts a few hours, but sexual experience is forever :)

Difficulty to use:

Anal toys can be a little tricky at first, but once you've found your level of comfort they're a cinch. Make sure to be relaxed beforehand, as I mentioned before, and you shouldn't have any difficulty.

Versatility: 

Technically, you can shove anything up there, so there's a ton of variety (I'm sure my friends remember a very vivid snapchat of a cowboy and a Jack Daniels bottle...you're welcome, again.), but when it comes to toys specifically made for anal, styles are a bit more limited. Thankfully, there are plenty of sizes and materials to choose from.

My Rating:

This review is for Pipedream's glass anal plug #48 from their Icicles collection.

As I wrote above, I was apprehensive about trying any anal toys since I had a couple bad incidents in the past. However, my curiosity about the products grew and I decided to give it another try. "If at once you don't suceed, try, try again" applies here, right? Anyway, this is not only my first time trying out an anal toy, but a glass one as well. Let me tell you, I loved it! The toy's design is very comfortable and feminine; I love the color and flower at the end. The glass made it easy to slip in, and was just the right weight. The material also contributed its own sensations as it started off cool and then adjusted to my body heat quickly. The craftsmanship was excellent, no seams in the product and clean up was incredibly easy. I would definitely recommend this item if you're thinking of venturing into glass and/or anal toys. I can't wait to try out more glass toys in the future (hint, hint).

Guy's Rating: 

He didn't try it out for himself, but I believe if he had to rate it as a turn on factor seeing it in me, he'd give it five lips as well.

For more updates on Pipedream's toys, visit their blog, Facebook page, and Twitter.