Happy Friday, everyone. Today I want to talk about a fetish that is the cornerstone for many others, as well as one of the most intriguing and involved practices. There's a lot to cover, so let's get started, shall we?
Today's Fetish: BDSM
Where to begin? How about explaining where BDSM get its name from? The word is an acronym for the six main elements found in this practice:
B: Bondage
D: Discipline/Dominance
S: Submission/Sadism
M: Masochism
BDSM is more than a fetish, for many it's a lifestyle. Common toys used in BDSM include restraints, whips, paddles, collars, gags, plugs and clamps, but can range widely depending on how creative you want to get. Some more extreme enthusiasts enjoy medical play, which includes scalpels, urethra sounds, and speculums, while others practice burning or scarring.
Because there is so much room for variety within the umbrella that is BDSM, there is an infinite amount of subgenres and paraphilias that emerge and work hand in hand with it. Pretty much any fetish can be considered BDSM if it meets the correct criteria in terms of its relationships.
It's essentially a power play between consenting adults, and it consists of at least two people, wherein one is dominant and the other is submissive. To better understand this lifestyle, here are some principals for each area:
- Bondage/Discipline: Handcuffs, paddles and the like, duct tape, harnesses, Saran wrap, latex, vinyl, clamps, and other similar tools are used for this practice. The bonded is restrained by some kind of mechanism or toy and left to the mercy of his or her disciplinarian. A common practice in this section is role-play or dressing up.
- Dominance/Submission: This relationship is perhaps the most critical aspect of a BDSM lifestyle. It consists of a Dominant (aka Dom or Master) and a Submissive (aka sub or slave). A female Dom is often referred to as a dominatrix. A Dom may have many subs, but a sub may only have one Dom, so be picky when choosing a Master.
- Sadism/Masochism: A step above the prior relationships mentioned, S&M revolves around the balance between pain and pleasure. Gaining its monikers from Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, sadists enjoy inflicting pain and humiliation on others, while masochists enjoy receiving it.
Common aspects of these relationships include pain and humiliation, so it's essential to have a safe word in order for both parties to know when it's time to end the activity. In order to have a safe experience, it is just as important for the sub to know when he or she has reached their limit and inform their Dom, as it is for the latter to stop immediately when they are told the safe word.
There are too many subgenres to list here, but hopefully you have a better understanding of this world. I'll touch on more BDSM-related fetishes for future FFs.
When done correctly, this can be a thoroughly enjoyable experience. The people involved are not degenerates or victims, just people who have discovered what they like and aren't afraid to push their boundaries.
Everyone, for the most part, has at least dipped a curious toe in BDSM water. Those furry handcuffs you got for your anniversary? That satin blindfold and feather tickler? What about that naughty schoolgirl outfit? Yup, all forms of BDSM. You little freak, you. It's ok, I won't tell anyone ;) Now, go dig out your fuck me heels, restraints, and go get your freak on! I've already got my hogtie handy.
Here's some more reading for you to continue learning:
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Mmmmm.... tying up a girl exorcist style and going down on her till she breaks free... or until I had my fill... no safety word, no letting up... only until Im done pleasing or until she is able to push me off
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